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What is it that makes you get to know people & vice-versa in something like 3 days or less while you've been with/around them for almost 3 years?? As in, there were 3 freaking years & neither side did anything enough to get to know each other properly??

That just goes on to show that :

  • We are bad at getting to know people.

  • People do not want to take the initiative to get to know us.

  • Even though there were ample opportunities, none were actually made proper use of.


By properly I'm just referring to the level of camaraderie that exists between good friends. Yes there is effort required for that to happen, but then again, How much effort do you put in? At what stage? How soon? How late? Fine that its happened now, but what if it had happened earlier? How much would it have helped if at all?

Life is full of What if's? isn't it?

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theju
May. 25th, 2004 01:39 am (UTC)
I completely agree with u
Well shyam u are absoluttely right, we have been seeing all of them for past three years but we have never tried to approach them untill recently ( during the fest ).I think it is our fear of getting ignored ( i dont think it is rihgt though ) that prevents us from making friendship with others. This is not the first time iam experiencing this kind of feeling ( the last time was durin the SSLC farewell party ), inspite of these experiences we never improve is what makes me feel sad.

Hope we dont repeat the same mistake in future, we all have got to learn lesson from this, i think we should avoid making assumptions about people we dont know ( like the one i had about a few people - I was completely wrong about them ).
fox2mike
May. 25th, 2004 01:40 am (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
That's exactly why I keep telling "child" never to assume things about people & start calling them names before he gets to know them properly.

And to me its not fear, but just that weeny thought in the head that goes along the lines of "Do I really need to make that effort & go that extra mile to talk to people" & more often than not my lazy bum brain says yes, & you know the rest.
rythm
May. 25th, 2004 01:58 am (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
U do know that I am never serious abt the names I call ppl. I never comment abt anybody till I know them. Everything else is only 4 fun.
fox2mike
May. 25th, 2004 02:03 am (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
Fun or not, name-calling can hurt people (if they hear it) right?

You may end up losing a good-friend just cause you were calling them names "for fun" as they'll prolly take it seriously...
rythm
May. 25th, 2004 02:34 am (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
If I call my friends names, then they will be the first one to hear it. If they have any probs, I wont call them again. I do know my timing is worse when it comes to dialog delivery. will try to change.

Another item added to my todo list-> Dont comment abt others.( I will break it by today evening:))

Anyhow, will stop calling names atleast.
fox2mike
May. 25th, 2004 02:57 am (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
If I call my friends names

I was referring to the state where the person is not yet your "friend" but you go onto to say for example name them & tell me that name out loud when they're passing by. Get it?

Dont comment abt others.( I will break it by today evening:))

Hahahahaha. I bet you've already broken that one ;)
louiswu
May. 25th, 2004 07:26 pm (UTC)
Re: I completely agree with u
Name! NAME!
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